Back when I was a kid I learned that the easiest way to conquer a people was to divide and conquer. With all the upset about how men are taking advantage of women it occurs to me that our superiors have been using that technique on us.
Look at how our society keeps us isolated from each other, at how estrangment between different parties is encouraged. We keep getting hit with stories of stranger danger, and the perils posed by the other. We are kept moving around, discouraged from making connections, and encouraged to treat those different from us as unworthy of our attentions.
The result you can see in the news and on the web. Even play gets us all upset, and we are encouraged to isolate ourselves from our fellows while sticking to a narrow group of those we think we can trust.
You get right down to it, we’re being told continually that we are incompetents and need protection. Our “betters” need to keep us under control, for they are afraid of what could happen should they lose that control. They need to feel important and needed, and most importantly that they matter more than the people under them. That is a crock of shit you get right down to it.
There are people you need to keep an eye on, folks you need to watch and ward. But the bulk of the population? Get real. Our problem is that we refuse to prepare folks for life on their own, holding to the idiot belief that they need to be controlled, and that we can control them. Yes, a good many people do need guidance, but not all the time for crying out loud, and that guidance does not include dictation and tyranny. You want our society to get better, to recover from this urge to despotism, you need to start trusting folks. And that means letting them learn to trust you.
That in turns means getting to know them, and letting them learn to know you. Don’t hide but let the people around you get to know you, and you get to know them. It won’t kill you. It may embarrass you at times, but only you can make that fatal.
And do it face to face, communicating at a distance sucks dry rocks. Let them see you, hear you, smell you. Make your connections immediate, for that is how we communicate best. Most importantly, let yourself be open to the other, for it is by your trusting them that they can best learn to trust you.
Being autistic I tend to have trouble opening up to others, but I can. Given the opportunity and the encouragement I can learn to let down my guard. But it takes patience and understanding. Most importantly sympathy and acceptance.
So for you what you really need is to have knowledge and understanding of what the other guy is going through and how he handles matters; how he can handle matters. Be sympathetic for that odd neighbor up the street could well be an interesting chap to know. Above all be brave, for you have nothing to lose but your isolation.