In Why is it Nice to be Nice the authors; Eva M Krockow, Andrew M Colman, and Briony Pulford have a few things to saw about us being nice, including humans along with other animals. They present a few ideas on how this could all work, but I wonder if maybe they’re missing something. How is it beneficial to us as individuals.
I’m thinking that by living in a nice community, where people are helpful and are often ready with a hand up or a hand out it makes our lives better, makes our success that much more likely. This improving our chances for survival and reproductive success.
In addition, seeing how being nice improves our chances makes it easier for us to aid others, thus improving their chances. You get right down to it, it’s a win-win situation. It’s a matter of the better my neighbor does the better I do. When Stephen R. Marsh sent me $20 dollars—of which I got 18—he was basically encouraging me, and for that I thank him.
Essentially what you’re doing when you are nice to others is that you are encouraging them to be nice to others themselves, and to be nice to you. You are encouraging their survival and their reproductive success, much as they then go on to encourage the survival and reproductive success of others that they may know. It comes down to a +sum game.
And it feels good. Helping others gives us warm fuzzies, and accepting kindness gives us warm fuzzies ourselves. I know that there are mean people out there, but do we need to let them harsh our mellow?
Read the story for yourself and see what you think. And if it upsets you ask yourself why you’re letting yourself get upset. Finally ask yourself this; is being mean and nasty really doing you any good.
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I have changes coming up. Loosing the last of my teeth and getting dentures for one. getting a cpap—at least—or maybe even a vpap—I may have to get an implant to remind my hind brain it’s necesssary for me to breathe—among them. But what’s really got me stressed is having to change my antidepressant.
As far as I can see the Prozac really isn’t doing the job any more. So I get to talk with my shrink about an alternative, and that may mean a stay in a crisis house. Such fun
To make matters even more fun, I can’t use stairs with the easeI once did. A bad knee is no fun, and mine makes using more than a few steps at a time a hugehassle. So that limits me to just a few crisis houses.
Then there is the possibility the staff attitude towards their patients still stinks on ice. I mean it’s been a while since I last stayed at one, but the hostility I got from certain parties put me off getting help there. I’ve got news for the rabidly politically correct, you’re not there to abuse those of us in crisis, but to help us get our shit together.
In good news, there may be new medications that will do a better job than Prozac at the moment.
In other news, I need to see people about a safer domicile. And one more affordable than what I’ve got now. And I need to organize my thoughts, so this post is coming to a premature end. But before I go I shall present to you a plea for donations. Just click on the button below and enter any amount you wish. And please note that for every dollar you send my way PayPal gets a cut to help them with their bills. It costs money to run PayPal, after all.
Anyway, after that snark it’s time for me to go. I hope everything is going well with you, and if something’s going south on you it’s something very small and very temporary.
We’re going through a crisis you get right down to it. But our current crisis has it’s beginning back on 9/11/2001 when planes were flown into the old World Trade Center and the Pentagon. Naturally we had a reaction, a very bad reaction, and we handled the emergency rather badly.
Osama bin Laden is the cause of the current troubles, him and how we decided to handle the challenge he presented us. We needed to do something to counter what he did, but we did the wrong things. As a result what we’re now seeing is people having a reaction to our overreaction, and what that amounts to is, we’re rebelling.
We’ve simply gone too far in trying to control things, and as a result the people our betters want to control are lashing out against them. In turn certain parties will try turning up the control even tighter, only to see harsher rebellion and in time the failure of the system and revolution in the original sense.
You can’t control everything, simply not possible, and those who think you can are in for great disappointments. You get right down to it, compared to controlling people herding cats is a cinch.
The Republicans are in trouble, the Democrats are in worse trouble, for both face a rebellion in the ranks that bids fair to see the old establishments swept away by radicals determined to make their party something to be proud of. Those who supported Clinton and Trump are doomed, for they made it possible for us to get into this situation. Our next President will be someone new, someone more like us. Some one who listens and takes us into consideration instead of fixating on the special folk who think they have to be so important.
Of course we could get someone who is even worse than Donald or Hillary, but only if we give up and let the fools have control. That’s my take. But be assured that if we do get a rotten ass in the White House in 2020 our descendents will refer to that time as the Second Civil War.
I’ve just finished up the 7th child advantages tables when an idea struck me. Let’s say you’re playing a girl of 16 who just happens to be the 7th child of a 7th daughter mother. Seems that of the six siblings before her one was a boy.
Then it seems that somebody, a deity maybe, decided your mom would be getting another child, a girl. This making her the 8th child and the 7th daughter of a 7th daughter.
Naturally you, being the 7th child of a 7th daughter, and so having certain gifts, are assigned the task of keeping an eye on your little sister so she doesn’t get into much trouble, and instructing her as best you can on how to use her gifts.
She’s also an 8 year old, and there are creatures out there on the look out for children her age and with her gifts. You’ve got adventures ahead of you. 🙂