I’ve noticed that some people don’t really know how to socialize in an RPG. Something about mechanics getting in to way, or of needing mechanics to make sure things are fair. I have to ask, why not use the mechanics as suggestions and advice.
Let’s say you cast a dweomer on a target that makes him think your character is an old friend of his. How are you going to handle that?
That’s simple, you’re an old friend of his. How do your old friends in real life handle you? Well then, use them as an example. They’re apt to be friendly. They may ask what you’ve been up to and how you’re doing. Most likely they’ll want an introduction to your new friends, though they may have trouble with them for some reason.
And what if they just happen to know one of your new friends, and the two of them happen to be enemies?
Just remember that your characters don’t have to be all that doctrinaire regarding the people you know, even the big bads. And sometimes the big bad is an old friend of yours from long ago that you did forget.
Marcus the Reprehensible: Timeas the White! When did you become a paladin? Last I saw you the Bishop was hauling you off for the graffiti you did on the back wall of the chapel.
Party Wizard: No, Tim, I cast nothing.
And do it all in character. That’s the key, doing it all in character.
And I know that there is more to say, but I’m running out of stuff. I’ll address this matter again when I’ve had time to do some cogitation.